It is amazing how God chooses His timing and eventually you realize it is what’s best for you even when you thought you had it all figured out.

This year has been a very significant one for me because before now I have tried to control everything in my life like I actually can, Sigh!

First I am going to share the most important lesson the Holy Spirit has thought me that helps me live a happy life everyday, even in the hard times.


I know a lot of people will say “oh I have heard this before”, same here, I go to church, listen to sermons this is almost all I hear but the real question for me was; was I really walking by faith and how can truly walk by faith?

The simple answer God gave me was to “REST IN HIM” and “TRUST HIM COMPLETELY” the reason why we would say we trust and have faith in someone or something and still go secure other options and back up plans is because we aren’t 100% sure. Needless for me to say with God you have to be 100%.

I had to learn to drop EVERYTHING at God’s feet and cling to His unfailing promises in His word that I know would surely come to pass as the bible says in

Numbers 23:19 God is not a man, that he should lie; neither the son of man, that he should repent: hath he said, and shall he not do it? or hath he spoken, and shall he not make it good’?  and gradually as God saw this He started to speak to me and show me in His word ways to live the life He truly wants for me in ease because I must tell you trying to walk with God in the ‘flesh’ is hard, almost impossible and also dangerous because the bible says in

Revelations 3:16 ‘So, because you are lukewarm, neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouth’.


Luke 12: 25-28 (NLT)

25     Can all your worries add a single moment to your life?

26     And if worry can’t accomplish a little thing like that, what’s the use of worrying over bigger things?

27     “Look at the lilies and how they grow. They don’t work or make their clothing, yet Solomon in all his glory was not dressed as beautifully as they are.

28     And if God cares so wonderfully for flowers that are here today and thrown into the fire tomorrow, he will certainly care for you. Why do you have so little faith?

James 1: 2-3 (NLT)

2      Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy.

3      For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow.

Psalm 91: 14-16 (NKJV)

14    “Because he has set his love upon Me, therefore I will deliver him; I will set him on high, because he has known My name.

15      He shall call upon Me, and I will answer him;
I will be with him in trouble;
I will deliver him and honor him.

16      With long life I will satisfy him,
And show him My salvation.”

Isaiah 55: 8 (NKJV)

    “For My thoughts are not your thoughts,
Nor are your ways My ways,” says the Lord.

Jeremiah 29: 11 (NKJV)

11      For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.

2 Corinthians 12: 9-10 (NLT)

8       Each time he said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me.

9      That’s why I take pleasure in my weaknesses, and in the insults, hardships, persecutions, and troubles that I suffer for Christ. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

Proverbs 3: 5-6 (NLT)

     Trust in the Lord with all your heart;
do not depend on your own understanding.

     Seek his will in all you do,
and he will show you which path to take.

Luke 10:19 (KJV)

19     Behold, I give unto you power to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy: and nothing shall by any means hurt you.

1 Chronicles 4 vs 10

10     And Jabez called on the God of Israel saying, “Oh, that You would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory, that Your hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evil, that I may not cause pain!” So God granted him what he requested.

 Psalm 16 vs 6 (NKJV)

     The lines have fallen to me in pleasant places;
Yes, I have a good inheritance.

There are many more scriptures that minister to me from time to time, I have just narrowed it down to some of the ones I have in my scripture book and I meditate on them every time with faith and assurance and I encourage you to get a scripture book and do same.

If you have any favorite scriptures, you can share in the comment section.

I pray this will minister and bless many in Jesus name,


Happy New month.



Congratulations on leaving the no status “status” gang lol! I hope you are as delighted as I am. Before we get into the second part if you haven’t read part one do so here https://sarahjamesnails.com/2017/10/12/there-is-no-relationship-status-called-in-between/

Let’s get right into it!


This means choosing to be single deliberately, not because you don’t have ‘options’ but because you have decided to wait on God and not lean on your own understanding or personal judgement on your relationship. The Holy spirit gave me this title during my transition process and it fits perfectly because I decided to leave whoever I was with intentionally and hold on to God.

*inserts what my pastor says during Sunday sermon*

“Can we go deeper?” lol.

They say the truth is bitter but it has to be told regardless and just like you and I can agree that maybe God wasn’t entirely present in the “relationship” that we stayed in, and like the bible says in Revelations 3 vs 16 ‘So, because you are lukewarm, neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouth’ and also in Galatians 6 vs 7 ‘Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap’.

I have learnt in my walk with God over the years that you cannot eat your cake and have it if you are, He’s just watching you waiting for you to come back and many Christians over time have chosen which aspect of their lives they want to give God and the one they want to blindly control but it can’t be for a long while if we want true success and blessings in every of our endeavours.



When you hear the word ‘WAIT’ the dictionary meaning is to remain indisposed or inactive. The difference between this waiting and “internationally waiting” is that you are most active in this phase, it is also called the “PREPARATION OR MOULDING PHASE”.

The Holy spirit told me that He will only give ‘THE BEST’ (Me) to ‘HIS BEST’ (My Partner) so therefore this phase is where you become God’s best in every area of your life by totally surrendering to His will for your life.

Your prayer point from this point is that God should use me for His glory on earth.

One of my spiritual mentors told me the secret to God orchestrating a meeting for you and your partner; it is a prayer point and it goes like this; “Lord put me on the mind of my partner wherever he/she might be, and put he/she on my mind also, then orchestrate a meeting when you please God, Amen. You know what this prayer does, it puts you at rest that God is working on your behalf because no matter how much you stay in the face of the person you like only God can put genuine love in their heart towards you.

In this phase you have to be careful and pray for discerning spirit because the bible says in 1 peter 5 vs 8 Be sober, be vigilant, because your adversary the devil walketh about as a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. When you pray this prayer and someone comes to your mind don’t immediately go to the person let the Holy spirit do the work for you while you stay in the place of prayer because the devil is aware and he can easily send one of his servants to distract you from your walk with God so be spiritually conscious.

You might ask how I’m so sure that I wont be waiting forever, I am very sure because the bible says in Gen 2 vs 18; And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Furthermore, Numbers 23 vs 19  tells me that ‘God is not a man, that He should lie, Nor a son of man, that He should repent. Has He said, and will He not do? Or has He spoken, and will He not make it good’?

This is the assurance I have, the faith that keeps me going and I hope and pray this post blesses you beyond measures.

In Jesus name, Amen

Please don’t forget to comment, I would love to hear from you.





I was having drinks with my friend Ellen (Shalla Ellen!❤) and we got talking about relationships, I was sharing my experience and then I said “THERE IS NO RELATIONSHIP STATUS CALLED “IN BETWEEN” it just came out at that time it made so much sense she said she wanted to write it down, it made so much sense and it still does even now.

The fact is that it took me a while to realize what I just easily said! I have been privileged to speak to quite a number of women on relationships and marriage and to share my journey and all the Holy Spirit constantly revels to me in this season as am ‘Intentionally waiting’. (We are going to get to that in part II).

I am glad God gave me this blog as a platform to bless others so I have complied in two parts some of the things the Holy Spirit has taught me for this season and I am more than happy to share with you all. Read and be blessed. Also don’t forget to comment, let’s discuss I would love to hear from you on waiting God’s way, if you have any questions concerning this topic or anything else please send me a mail, my contact is in my about page. God bless you❤


They say that the heart chooses who ever it desires… I get that but can I also say that you have the power to teach your heart so it doesn’t lead you into trouble.

Most single men and women would agree with me that there has probably been a time when you were just “chilling” with someone because you both feel something for each other but one of the both parties isn’t quite ready for commitment yet and there is some level of entitlement but no title, but instead of walking away or rather because it would hurt to death to walk away you will rather stay and live in the moment.

There is no crime in been hopeful, positive or patient, but there comes a time when you have to sit back and check yourself, many times you find that you are living in an unending circle of the same thing.

I have but down some phases to help move out of this state. I understand how difficult this may be, it may take days, months even years to finally get out of this no status “status”. I hope these steps help you get there faster.




When I say confrontation I don’t mean like a physical fight, I mean more like a proper adult conversation on the phase of life each party is and if you both are ready to give what either party is asking. If not, then you can be sure you have your answer.


You might feel like a little more trying, nudging or hoping would bring forth a positive outcome, it ok not to give up easily but it is wisdom to know when to back out and accept within yourself that just maybe it’s not the right time or the right person.


This is one of the most important phase, many people avoid phase 1 because they are afraid of this phase, they can’t stomach the reality but you see anything that has a beginning has an end more so if it wasn’t yielding anything profitable. You have to let yourself heal, one major thing that helps me is prayer, the assurance that I have spoken to God about it makes me feel a whole lot better and helps me heal faster because I know I didn’t have the power to change anything so why don’t I just surrender to the God who has the power. It ok to cry if you want to but very quickly like you fell get back up it not the end, its only a means to the beautiful end of your single life.


Look through yourself and try to give your self what you feel you might be missing. Like we all know if you can’t love yourself you cannot properly love someone else. Do things that make you happy and try to fill whatever void you might feel inside. I was listening to a message by Bishop T. D. Jakes and he said one of the mistake singles make is living their lives saying they are looking for their “other half” as they are incomplete, but he said YOU ARE COMPLETE! God made you whole in all areas of your life you don’t need another human to live the best of your life. When your partner come they will “COMPLEMENT YOU”, whatever you have already built for yourself as an individual.

After you feel you have successfully passed these phases we would talk more in Part II in my next blog post.

Thank you for reading.